Some of us choose a lifestyle living alone. Some of us decide to live with someone who is considered a long term partner. What are some ways that a person can assist a long term relationship to last the test of time?
- Make a conscious decision that you want to have a partner long term instead of serial monogamy, being on your own or something else.
- Accept that there will be moments that are joyful and pleasant and some moments that will trigger unpleasant emotions, in all relationships.
- Learn more successful ways of communicating and other skills to assist you to relate to each other peacefully and ride through difficult moments together.
- Listen to each other, really listen, to what the other person is saying, not to what you think or hope that they are saying.
- Use methods to compromise and make the relationship work for both parties.
- Get to know your partner really well by being curious about who they are and what their hopes and dreams are.
- At the start of the day, share what you are doing for the day. During the day, if possible, connect with each other in some way. At the end of the day show interest in how each other’s day went.
- Have fun times together, including date nights.
- Say ‘I love you’ verbally and in as many other ways that you can.
- Each person can focus and work on what they can do differently rather than what the other can do differently.
Above all, a long term relationship is beneficial to both parties and enhances each person’s life!
If you would like to have sessions as a couple to gain assistance with the above, I am here to help, do not hesitate to book a time, sooner is better than later, to get started!
