November 2020: Bids for connection in relationships.

Sometimes relationships go through rough patches or people just feel disconnected in some way. Often one or both parties will then make ‘bids for connection’.
‘A bid is any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request for advice or help.’

It is important to make bids for connection, as well as, recognise the ‘bids’ that the other is making. Once you recognise these bids you can respond to them, resulting in moving toward the other, instead of away from the other.

As you return into the life of working in an office and socialising in or outside of home, what bids for connection for connection do you notice significant others making and in what ways do you respond to these bids?

More information about ‘bids for connection’ can be found at https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

Do not hesitate to contact me when I am on site or on 0421 070 037 or on [email protected] or [email protected], if you have any questions or comments.

Happy working and socialising.

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